What Do We Mean By “Strong Female Characters?”
By Marcy Kennedy (@MarcyKennedy)
I planned to post today on “Creating Strong Yet Likeable Female Characters.” As I was researching helpful links to include, I came across a post from the New York Times called “A Plague of Strong Female Characters.” And I realized that, before we can talk about how to make sure strong female characters are also likeable, I first need to cover the inevitable debate over what we mean by strong female character.
In the NYT article, Carina Chocano writes, “I get the feeling that what most people mean or hear when they say or hear strong female character is female characters who are tough, cold, terse, taciturn and prone to scowling. . . in order for a female character to be worth identifying with, she should really try to rein in the gross girly stuff.”
She goes on to conclude that “Strength, in the parlance, is the 21st-century equivalent of virtue. And what we think of as virtuous, or culturally sanctioned, socially acceptable behavior now, in women as in men, is the ability to play down qualities that have been traditionally considered feminine and play up the qualities that have traditionally been considered masculine. Strong female characters, in other words, are often just female characters with the gendered behavior taken out.”
And yes, those stereotypes float around in books and movies—the character that could go from being a woman to a man with a simple name change and a haircut.
But when you think about strong women in real life, is that the image that comes to mind? Because, you see, what makes for a strong female character is exactly what makes for a strong woman.
Strong female characters, like strong women, can enjoy painting their nails, wearing makeup, and putting on a beautiful dress. They can wear stilettos, or ballet flats, or hiking boots. They can be moms, even stay-at-home moms. They can be musicians or cooks or doctors. They can cry. They can comfort a friend. They can listen. And yes, they can even be afraid of bugs.
None of those things define a strong woman or a strong female character.
So what does it mean when we talk about a strong female character?
Strong Female Characters Are Smart
Smart can mean book smart the way a quantum physicist is, but it can also mean a woman with common sense that lets her find creative solutions to everyday problems. Or it can mean a woman who’s talented with using her hands and can paint a picture or fix a car.
She has a skill that earns respect and contributes to society. Her intelligence makes her competent, able to help others, and not totally dependent on another person for her entire existence. (Some dependence is okay—none of us are entirely self-sufficient.)
Hermione Granger’s character in Harry Potter didn’t “play down qualities that have been traditionally considered feminine and play up the qualities that have traditionally been considered masculine,” yet she was a strong female character largely because of her intelligence and magical talent. She contributed to the search for Horcruxes in a meaningful way, so much so that Ron (in the movie version) admitted, “We wouldn’t last two days without her.”
Strong Female Characters Act
We’ve all seen the female character who stands by when she clearly should have acted. As much as I love the classic The Princess Bride, would it have killed Buttercup to whack the ROUS with a stick while it was gnawing on Wesley? A strong woman would have defended her beloved.
When she can, a strong female character escapes on her own rather than waiting for someone else to rescue her. Tameri Etherton wrote an excellent post on Danielle from Ever After, a strong female character who worked to change her bad situation.
A strong female character also makes decisions, rather than always waiting on someone else to call the shots. Captain Kathryn Janeway in Star Trek: Voyager listens to advice from Chakotay (her male first officer) and Tuvok (her male chief of security), but she doesn’t always take it, and if they’re not there to advise her, she’s strong enough to act on her own.
The difference between a strong female character who acts and a weak one who simply reacts is the difference between Buffy and Bella.
Strong Female Characters Stand Up for What They Believe In
Whether or not you agree with all the decisions made by President Laura Roslin in Battlestar Galactica, she stood up for what she thought was right. From sending Starbuck back to Caprica to retrieve the Arrow of Apollo (that’s supposed to help lead them to Earth) to fixing the election to prevent sniveling Dr. Gaius Baltar from being elected, she didn’t sit by if what was happening violated her beliefs of right and wrong.
She might be frightened and injured, and risking great loss, but as her hands shake and tears well up in her eyes, a strong woman stands up for what she believes in.
A strong female character, like a strong woman, can stand side-by-side with a man, confident in the knowledge that they are different but nevertheless equal.
How do you define strength in a woman? What do you think goes into a strong female character?
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Mar 12, 2012 @ 09:21:13
What a great post! You are so right about strong women in life. Most of the strong women I know are strong as women and because they are women, not because they are like men. I have been thinking about this a lot in my current WIP. My characters are strong women, but I sometimes wonder if men will see them as strong, or if they will think them weak because they aren’t masculine. My main audience is women, but I wonder if gender makes a difference in readers.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 14:53:14
Emma, I can answer that for you as a man who reads romance novels. YES. There is nothing I hate more than a writer who equates strength with the physical and not the mental and emotional. You see it on TV all the time, women who can beat 3 men at once and they are totally stripped of their femininity. I haven’t read your books but I can already tell I would like your heroines. My favorite fenale character is from a book by Jessica Scott called Because of You. The heroine is a cancer surviver. She doesn’t beat anyone up or try to prove her manhood she simply has a quiet, feminine strength that resonates. Strongest heroine I have read.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 14:58:26
Thanks for weighing in on this. It’s nice to have the perspective of a man who does read romance novels or women’s fiction.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 14:53:16
Since your main audience is women, I wouldn’t worry about how your characters will come across to men. We can’t please everyone with what we write, so we have to try to please our target audience 🙂
Mar 12, 2012 @ 10:26:42
This is a wonderful post, Marcy. To me, a strong woman is one who can take whatever life throws at her and stays true to herself, whatever that may be. She doesn’t have to beat the snot out of bad guys and she’s allowed to cry and ruin her mascara, but she stands up for herself and those she loves, she stands up for what she believes in. She still remains compassionate, funny, and easily distracted by a rocking pair of boots in a store window.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 14:54:56
Easily distracted by a rocking pair of boots–love it! I really like the point you made about handling whatever life throws at her. It takes a lot of strength to not give up when life doesn’t go the way you wanted or expected.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 11:55:51
You pretty much nailed it, Marcy. A strong woman doesn’t need to be the stereotypical kick-a$$ heroine, she just has to be decisive when a situation calls for it and willing to take a stand. My #1 definition of a strong woman? One who knows what she wants (or is willing to work to find out) and doesn’t take crap from anyone. Hopefully all of my heroines are like this! Great post!
Mar 13, 2012 @ 14:14:38
Very good point about a strong woman knowing what she wants (or being willing to work to figure it out). That’s key. A weak woman or female character is one who lets her path be decided for her without even asking what she might want to aim for.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 13:15:52
This was brilliant! You completely nailed it on the head. It is so frustrating when books and movies make the females who are supposed to be the examples of strong women stripped of all things feminine. Great, great post!
Mar 12, 2012 @ 14:52:19
Thanks 🙂 That’s always bothered me too. I don’t think the differences between men and women are a bad thing, and our characters can still be girls while being strong.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 13:55:35
Very much liked this. I read an article about female Army helicopter pilots in Iraq who, from time to time, would get together to paint their toes. I could see that as an identity thing!
It seems that one of the more common ideas of liberation is not to be yourself, but to be some stereotype of strength — which in our society is still the White Anglo-Saxon Protestant male.
I’ve struggled with the concept of “strong female character” in my own writing — this is a help! Thanks!!
Mar 13, 2012 @ 14:21:46
The illustration of the female Army pilots is a perfect one. Deployment situations put everyone in very harsh, traditionally male circumstances, and I can see them wanting a little bit of beauty and a way to still feel like women.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 15:10:06
Thanks for linking to my Buffy post. I agree – great post. You’ve been after me on this, I know. 🙂
Mar 13, 2012 @ 14:15:01
You’re welcome. I loved that post.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 15:36:31
Really great post. Loved it and I totally agree. I think strong female (or male for that matter) characters are ones that make decisions for themselves and act instead of react to what is happening TO them. While, at the same time, keeping true to who they are.
Also, there is huge strength is being emotionally vulnerable and compassionate. Those hardened, masculine female characters, in my opinion, come off as actually weak (emotionally) and scared, so they’ve had to build up the exterior wall to protect them.
Mar 13, 2012 @ 20:23:57
Excellent point, Ginger 🙂 We don’t consider people who shut others out to be emotionally strong. Emotion strength requires being brave enough to let people in.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 16:07:26
I agree that strong female characters are ones that made decisions and act when they need to. Elastigirl in The Incredibles jumps to mind – she’s a sexy, strong, smart mother and wife. Yet I also agree that characters like her are VERY hard to find in modern movies. I’d personally love to see more women like Elastigirl in books and movies.
Mar 13, 2012 @ 20:24:32
I love The Incredibles. What a great example 🙂
Mar 12, 2012 @ 16:52:09
Brilliant post Marcy! I’m bookmarking this one. I think Prudence summed my feelings up well with, “To me, a strong woman is one who can take whatever life throws at her and stays true to herself, whatever that may be.”
Mar 13, 2012 @ 20:24:52
Thanks 🙂
Mar 12, 2012 @ 17:41:17
Great post Marcy!
I think a strong female character doesn’t have to be out in front of the crowd. What I mean by that is she feels comfortable in her own skin. She can take a backseat to others yet be self-assured. She can show emotion, yet laugh at herself. She can let others follow, yet set her own course. 🙂
Mar 13, 2012 @ 20:26:30
Strength doesn’t require you to be in charge all the time–very true. I think people do naturally gravitate to following strong people, but some of the strongest people are also those who work behind the scenes so that someone else can succeed.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 18:24:17
The part about common sense reminded me about book I read — didn’t finish. The main character was a woman. In the early part of the book, she and her male partner are being chased by a man with a gun in the National Art Gallery. Male partner decides they will hide from the gunman in the ladies’ bathroom — figures the gunman won’t look there because of the possibility of running into other women. So what does the female main character do? With the gunman searching for them, she screeches at male companion about him being in the ladies room. Non-stop. Gunman roaming around outside, trying to find them. Absolutely no common sense. I read on somewhat, but she kept doing dumb thing after dumb thing, and I finally had to put the book down. Worst thing? The book was written by a woman.
In addition to comments above, a strong female character can think for herself — in every situation. It doesn’t have to be the right decision or thinking, but she needs to think. I’ve seen far too many books where the female character is smart enough to get herself into trouble and not smart enough to get herself out. It’s a staple of romance for the woman to be rescued by the guy, and it creeps out into the other genres. I think I don’t mind if she gets rescued, but it’s the approach that I don’t like. A perfectly great character often turns utterly stupid so the rescue can happen. One book I read spent a lot of time building up how the character could use guns and was a black belt. She was bodyguard no less! Yet, when she got captured by the bad guy, she had opportunities to use these skills and simply didn’t, for the express purpose of being rescued. Now the author could have had the character injured in a way that would have prevented her from using her martial arts (broken arm?), had her partially drugged, or even just a darn bigger and more powerful opponent. The last would have worked with her using her head to to try to get away because she would have been smart to not let him hurt her and still fulfilled the rescue side.
Mar 13, 2012 @ 22:02:32
I cringed reading your comment about the woman who was harassing the male lead about being in the ladies room while a killer was after them. I would have thrown that book aside too.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 19:47:03
YES! Someone else gets it! Every author who wants to write about a strong female character needs to read this post. This is also making me reconsider redefining my main character in my WIP.
Mar 13, 2012 @ 22:02:58
Thanks 🙂 I’m glad you found something helpful in it.
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Mar 12, 2012 @ 20:12:51
My expectations for a strong female character are pretty low. I’ll be content with a female’s characterization if a decision she makes affects the outcome of the story. She has to have the strength to decide, herself, even if that decision is influenced by other characters, and to be willing to face the consequences of that decision.
I’ve been reading and watching a few strong, feminine characters. Jess from New Girl argues with a woman who’s ultra-masculine and sarcastic and competitive that her checks have kittens on them, but she can still mess you up if you cross her. And the heroine from Discount Armageddon is a monster hunter who wants to break into the world of professional ballroom dancing.
So I think people are starting to get the message that strong female characters aren’t men with boobs.
Mar 13, 2012 @ 22:06:01
I think a willingness to face the consequences of her actions is a big one. She’s not a strong character if she blames someone else for her mistakes or lets someone else take the fall for her.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 21:06:46
Great post Marcy. I like your characteristics of a strong woman. For me, it is congruency between her words and her actions. this means she has to be honest and reliable.
great thoughts. thanks for posting
Mar 14, 2012 @ 11:25:41
Thanks for coming by 🙂 I’m glad you enjoyed the post.
Mar 12, 2012 @ 23:39:51
Great post, Marcy,
Hmm. I agree with your characteristics. For me a strong fictional heroine needs to have strong values and ethics. She also needs to have courage. As writers we can give her as many flaws as we like but without the above three ingredients she will never resonate with a reader which is why we’ve been hearing complaints of heroines being TSTL (too stupid too live) or being too aggressive and kick-ass.
Mar 14, 2012 @ 11:26:48
Great point about balance. Sometimes when we’re trying to create a strong female character we fall into the trap of thinking that as long as we give her some flaws to counteract her masculinity, that will be enough. And it isn’t.
Mar 13, 2012 @ 00:11:27
Fantastic post, Marcy. I believe traits that make a female character strong are traits that make a person strong, regardless of gender. This isn’t to say that men and women aren’t different, but that strength is strength, whether positively or negatively geared. A villain can be strong, too. 😉
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Mar 14, 2012 @ 11:49:21
Very true, but I think that sometimes is forgotten.
I do love a strong villain 🙂
Mar 13, 2012 @ 11:32:16
Brilliant and true. As a male writer I struggle with creating believable and strong female characters that are not a palette swap from macho action heroes.
Mar 14, 2012 @ 11:27:27
I think female writers face the same challenge when we’re creating male characters. We often swing toward making them more feminine because that’s what we understand best.
Mar 13, 2012 @ 11:56:47
Excellent post!
“before we can talk about how to make sure strong female characters are also likeable…”
Sometimes a strong female character will do things that are not always likeable. A strong woman does what she thinks is right, regardless of the heat she might take for it. President Roslin fixing the election is a good example.
Mar 14, 2012 @ 11:28:08
They can do things that aren’t likeable, but we still like them. It’s a fine distinction but an important one I think.
Mar 13, 2012 @ 12:23:38
Girl, you nailed it!! What a wonderful way to define strong women and I couldn’t agree more. Strong women aren’t just men in women’s bodies. Strong women are empowered, confident, secure, smart, able, courageous, etc…they aren’t afraid to fight for what they want, go after what they dream, and speak up for what they believe.
WOW – love it!
Mar 14, 2012 @ 11:29:11
Thanks, Natalie! It sounds to me like you knew the secret all along 🙂
Mar 13, 2012 @ 14:13:56
Great post!
It’s sad that there is confusion about what a “strong woman” is. There seems to be this idea among some that a strong female character can’t have loving relationships, must always be in charge, can’t be bothered with the conventions of motherhood or marriage…
She can be anything she wants to be. I love the points you highlighted that truly show what a strong woman should be.
Mar 14, 2012 @ 11:34:20
Thanks! One of the strongest, bravest women I know is actually a loving, happily married, stay-at-home mom of three. I’m hoping that the thinking on what makes a strong female character can start to shift a little to be more accurate.
Mar 13, 2012 @ 14:56:19
This post is really heartening for me, since the primary protagonist in one of my WIPs is female, and needs to be a strong heroine. But due to the setting, she’s tossed into a strange role, having to deal with various expectations of how she ‘should be’. The arc, of course, is her finding out who she is and what she’s willing to do in spite of the expectations of both her gender and position.
Great post.
Mar 14, 2012 @ 11:50:15
This sounds like an interesting story. I hope it’s nearing completion 🙂
Mar 13, 2012 @ 17:35:49
Well said- I vented a few weeks ago about female characters either being a bitch or a sub so often. I’m always thrilled when I find well rounded human female characters.
Mar 14, 2012 @ 11:34:47
Me too. They’re the ones that stick with me and feel like friends.
Mar 14, 2012 @ 01:57:20
I have always been drawn to strong female characters. When I begin writing a story, it does seem that my initial lead is usually a female. I have yet to figure that one out. It could be that I’ve read/seen so many books/stories/movies with a typical male lead that anything different is good – even in my subconscious mind.
I loved the article and could not agree more. I put quite a bit of effort into making my female characters both smart and independent without sacrificing the fact that they ARE women to begin with. Not only does it add several valid layers of depth (sorry dudes!), but it also makes for greater conflict in many ways. And what is a good tale without sufficient conflict? Right?
Mar 14, 2012 @ 11:51:22
Right 🙂 Conflict is key, and the more layered our characters are the more opportunity we have for some really great conflict.
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This post has been on my radar all week! I can’t believe I’m only just getting here. I should have run here sooner. This post is spot on, Marcy! You’ve made me evaluate my protag more closely. She may lack some of those feminine qualities mentioned, but not any more than I do. LOL She makes the journey to discover her true ideals and inner strength over the course of the story. I’ll be bookmarking this post. And I always loved Lisa’s Buffy and Bella post as well. 🙂
Mar 16, 2012 @ 21:04:45
I lack a few feminine qualities myself (apparently I’m much better at looking for solutions that I am at just listening) 😉
I’m glad my post helped 🙂
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Mar 15, 2012 @ 19:01:59
You know I love this post! Thank you so much for the shout out to my post on Danielle. I totally agree that a strong woman can also be girly. It doesn’t have to be black and white. You’re so awesome, Marcy! Definitely a strong woman to be admired.
Mar 16, 2012 @ 21:05:32
You’re welcome. I thought your post on Danielle was great 🙂 And thank you for such a wonderful compliment!!
Mar 16, 2012 @ 10:37:26
Great post (Moody’s funnily enough sent me).
I think of the Tarot card for Strength – most often illustrated with a maiden holding a lion in her lap.
Physical power is one way of being strong – but only one. I love reading about smart women, problem solvers, women who aren’t afraid to admit they love a good pedicure and great shoes – and women who aren’t afraid to admit they couldn’t care less about shoes, but love kittens. Whatever.
Women who sit around waiting to be rescued – either in books or, stars help us, in real life, irritate the crap outta me.
Mar 16, 2012 @ 21:07:24
You nailed it 🙂 Real women have more than one layer to them, and I think it’s important that female characters do too 🙂
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Mar 18, 2012 @ 12:05:19
You make a great point about strong female characters being the same as strong women. What bothers me about strong female characters in fiction is that they aren’t likeable. Because all of the things that make them women have been stripped away. Hermione Granger is the perfect example of a strong female character who remained female even while saving the world. She was smart and proactive and emotional and feminine. Great post, Marcy!
Mar 19, 2012 @ 21:33:28
This is a stellar post! You’re right, “strong” is often such a stereotyped word when it comes to female characters (and women in the real world). I very much appreciate your balanced evaluation of what makes a likeable, spirited, yet feminine heroine. This is why Belle is my favorite Disney princess–she has it all 🙂
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Apr 04, 2012 @ 15:55:35
Hi Marcy! I couldn’t resist commenting on this post, since I’ve covered this topic too. (Mine is here, if you’re interested. http://annieneugebauer.com/2012/03/12/the-problems-with-strong-female-characters/)
What strikes me is that you’re talking about characters who are strong women – but there are also characters who are weak women portrayed strongly. And part of what I try to argue, in my own post, is that those characters have value too. Not all women are strong, and so it seems to me that not all female characters should be strong. Male characters are often shown and revered for their portrayal of human flaws… why can’t female characters serve that purpose too?
I agree with what you say makes women strong, but I don’t think that’s what all characters should be. If we’re aiming for sexual equality (and why wouldn’t we be?), there should be all matter of female characters in fiction, just as there are males. That’s my two cents, anyway. =)
I really enjoyed this post!
May 06, 2013 @ 04:18:59
Great post. There is a great example of a strong woman in ‘Shalador’s Lady’ by Anne Bishop. In the novel a young Queen must form a court and unite her people, restore the land and show everyone they can have faith in the Blood again. But Cassidy isn’t attractive. She is a gawky, freckled, insecure woman who grows and overcomes her insecurities, proving that she is a better Queen than any of the more powerful and prettier women. And she achieves her goal – but she is not a warrior, nor does she wield any great power. She is simply human and knows (and learns) how to stand up for what she believes in. I’ve written a similar post here if your interested.
http://writingmytruth.com/portraying-strong-and-feminine-characters/
Cheers
Aug 16, 2017 @ 20:31:54
In practice, “Strong Female Character” means hyper masculine. These characters become the opposite of feminine. They are basically characters written as if they are men, yet are played by an actress. All other characters react to the character as if it was male, all dialog is written as if the character was male, all situations the character is in are those a man would face.
Believe it or not, but women and men are different. They think differently, act differently, have different priorities, and find themselves in completely different situations.
A story about a woman humiliated from failing basketball team tryouts, terrified of an approaching 3:00 fight with the school bully, and trying to get the class hunk to notice her, doesn’t create immersion. This is because in reality a woman would never find herself in that situation, however a man could.
Sure, people can claim that a woman could, but that doesn’t make it true, even if they lie and say they themselves were in such a situation before.
You see, I’m a woman, and so I know the truth about women. Woman are treated completely differently by the culture. We don’t have the same problems as men. We live in a completely different “world” than men do. We also don’t react the same way men do, because we don’t need to.
A woman doesn’t need to win a fight with the school psycho to prove she is a woman. Nor would she need to do it to impress the school hunk. She might be miffed if she doesn’t make the team, but she wouldn’t be humiliated. A woman doesn’t have the same mindset as a man.
“Strong Female Characters” also end up very unlikable. They are mean and cocky. The problem is that, because she is a woman, the script will never ever take her down a peg for this antisocial behavior. Male characters of this sort are humbled during the story and redeem themselves. The script has women shown to be superior in all they do without any flaws and with great success, because giving a woman the comeuppance she deserves is apparently considered “sexist” by Hollywood.
As a woman, I can’t stand “Strong Female Characters”. They are unrelatable. They cannot tell a woman’s story, because they are just men in drag. “Feminine Female Characters” are what is needed to make a story that can actually speak to the lives and experiences of real women. Don’t REAL women’s stories deserve to be told?