Four Secrets About Writer’s Conference Faculty
It’s writer’s conference season again, and as someone who’s gone to multiple conferences, both as an attendee and as faculty, I wanted to share with you the top four things the faculty and presenters at writer’s conferences (including agents and editors) wish you knew.
(1) We can tell from a 15 minute appointment who is going to succeed and who is going to fail.
You probably think I’m exaggerating, but I’m not. It’s that obvious.
So what are some of the factors signaling success in a person’s future?
- a willingness to learn and work hard
- questions showing an understanding of what I said
- the ability to clearly tell me what you need my help with (or the acknowledgment you’re just starting out and aren’t even sure what your first step should be)
- evidence you did your research ahead of time
(And please remember – even if they seen potential in you, you might not be ready yet. Would you want to eat an unripe banana? Whether or not an agent or editor asks to see more after a conference should never be taken as a clear sign of your future potential.)
What makes these so important?
Hard work and teachability trump talent every day.
Asking questions (or taking notes) shows that you’re listening, digesting, and are likely to apply what you’ve learned later.
If you know what you need my help with, you know your weaknesses. Recognizing them is the first step in fixing them. If you sit down with me and can’t even explain what you want in a way I can understand, it’s also going to be difficult for you to move forward and get your message across to readers.
If you don’t take the time to read carefully or to research the specialties of conference faculty before speaking to them, it’s a sign that you’ll also query agents and editors randomly. At the last conference I taught at, I had two separate people book appointments with me because they wanted to know how to code and design a website themselves. My bio (on the conference website, my website, and the wall behind my head) said nothing about website design. The best I could do was give them the name of the company who designed my website.
(2) There’s nothing in it for us except the desire to see others succeed.
In the past, the small honorarium I’ve received to come and teach isn’t enough to cover my expenses (though I know this does vary by conference). Monetarily, teaching at conferences is often a loss even for faculty who have books to sell.
Agents and editors come in the hope of finding a new author. Other writers come because they want the chance to give back.
The point to take away from this is that you should take the advice they give you seriously. Don’t brush it off because they accidentally wounded your pride. They want you to do well. Sometimes that means handing out a dose of tough love.
(3) Our days are longer than yours.
Faculty members put in 14 hour days. On one day alone at the last conference we taught at, my co-writer and I put in 17 hours, including teaching a class, an impromptu workshop, almost four hours of one-on-one appointments with attendees, a working lunch, a working supper, informal meetings . . . you get the picture. And unlike attendees, we can’t just take off for an hour to rest.
We were happy to do it. We hope to do it again. But it’s exhausting to always be “on.”
So what? (Yup, I could hear you asking that.)
If at any point you feel like a conference faculty member is brushing you off, ignoring you, belittling you, or didn’t want to talk to you, the truth is they were probably just tired. And since they’re human, exhaustion affects them negatively. Know that they’re trying their best, and don’t take it personally.
(4) We find it overwhelming (and flattering) that everyone knows who we are.
At Write! Canada, where I taught last summer, people I’d never met knew me by sight. Few happenings in my life have been as humbling. I’m really not cool enough to be that well known. In fact, I’m geeky and clumsy and boring more often than I care to admit. (If you don’t believe me, just ask my family.)
The take away here is that if a faculty member forgets your name, don’t take it personally. (And always wear your name tag so we don’t feel like idiots for not knowing your name.) You already know them, but they’ve probably had 10 new names thrown at them in the last half an hour alone.
When you get a chance to talk to them, ask all your writing-related questions (that’s why you’re there after all), but also try to connect with them on something you have in common. Then, if you email them later, you can mention the conversation about such-and-such that you enjoyed and it will jog their memory.
If you’re a conference veteran, what’s the single best piece of advice you’d give to someone new to conferences? If you’re considering going to your first conference, what’s your biggest question or fear?
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Apr 18, 2012 @ 09:04:37
My biggest question is how to find the conferences that will have the best workshops. It seems like conferences in my area are mainly for writers to pitch to agents and editors. I want to find more ways to take workshops that are useful. Are there any tricks to knowing that before attending, or is it just go and find out? So far, it’s been pretty disappointing.
Apr 18, 2012 @ 09:33:47
I’ve had to travel to get to conferences with helpful workshops. The closest was a three hour drive and the farthest took me to California, which is across the country.
My best tip for finding workshops that will really be worth it is to look at who’s teaching each class once the syllabus is posted. If they have a blog, you can often get an idea of their style from reading it and sometimes even contact them. Also, I’ve emailed the conference coordinator of smaller conferences before to see if they had additional information (other than what was on the website) about a particular class. If a conference doesn’t have a website where you can find out more information, it’s probably not worth going. And giving a shout out on Twitter or Facebook to see if anyone has been to that particular conference before might get you some personalized feedback.
The other option would be to take workshops online, which saves on travel. If you look for classes that use webinar technology, it can be just as good as an in-person workshop without the travel costs. I know that in the next few months a very well respected teacher is going to be bringing together a lot of people to teach online classes. When that venture launches, I’ll be announcing it here so maybe that will help too.
Apr 18, 2012 @ 09:19:12
Still good the second time around. I have to say one of the hardest parts about being faculty is being asked for advice, giving what you honestly and professionally feel is the best advice – and then see that crushed look on a person’s face because you didn’t hand them whatever it was they were looking for. If you want a pat on the back, rephrase your question. I’d rather kick a puppy – honestly, it feels like punching someone in the face. I totally get the agents and editors who hand out their cards to everyone at a conference. Please don’t take any advice about writing as a personal kick in the teeth. It’s never meant to be that way.
Apr 18, 2012 @ 14:54:26
I know what you mean. I try to remind myself that I wouldn’t be doing them a favor by simply telling them what they want to hear. We’re there to speak the truth. We try to do it kindly, but sometimes the truth is a bitter drought. And not so many years have passed that I don’t remember what it was like to be the person who goes and has a good cry after a meeting at a conference, so I know what it feels like to be the one receiving the unpleasant advice. As much as it hurt, I’m grateful to the people who were honest with me because it allowed me to grow.
Apr 18, 2012 @ 13:52:20
Funny you should post this today. I was just talking about this with my mentor Joely Sue Burkhart, who just got back from RT. I’m in the same boat as Emma, not to mention sticker shock at the only local convention I’ve found. Great info!
Apr 18, 2012 @ 14:47:32
Sticker shock indeed 🙂 I know what you mean. It makes choosing the right one to attend essential.
Apr 18, 2012 @ 14:27:20
Great info Marcy! Thank you for posting this. This has been very helpful. I am the worst at coming up with my questions on the fly. They tend to come to me after the fact. I always need to prepare ahead of time, but if something comes up in a discussion, I know any questions that arise from that won’t pop in my head until I walk out of the room. That’s my test blackout mentality. LOL. I hope I can overcome that. *Smacks forehead to palm*
Apr 18, 2012 @ 14:45:41
A lot of instructors you meet at conferences are open to you sending follow up questions afterward too, so that’s always an option 🙂
Apr 18, 2012 @ 15:17:12
I’ve been to one big one–and it was exciting and overwhelming. The best part–the inspiring keynote speakers. I probably won’t go to another until I have a very specific agenda in mind–like critiquing or networking, etc.
Thanks for the info Marcy!
Apr 19, 2012 @ 12:50:00
When I went to my first few conferences, I didn’t have a real agenda in mind either. I was so green I squeaked, and had no idea what I was doing or where to start. So I just went as a sponge. Later, I started to be strategic about it, going with specific goals in mind. Sounds like you’ve reached that point too 🙂
Apr 18, 2012 @ 17:43:19
Good info and great advice, Marcy. There are zillions of conferences out there and one secret to success for an attendee is to find the right one for your purposes. If you want to learn to write, you’d choose a different conference from a fan conference. The best advice I’d give attendees is to use your conference time to make connections and network with others. Most learning can be acquired in other ways, but meeting people face to face and becoming connected to them has been enormously helpful to me and my career.
Apr 19, 2012 @ 13:39:39
Very true. If you pick the wrong conference, even if it’s a great conference, you’re going to be disappointed because it’s like eating vanilla ice cream when what you were craving was chocolate.
I’ve made a lot of great connections at conferences too, so I 100% agree we shouldn’t underestimate the value of meeting face to face.
Thanks for commenting. It’s always so valuable to hear from a professional who’s published multiple excellent books.
Apr 18, 2012 @ 20:26:59
Fantastic advice Marcy! I’m doing my first rounds of writer conferences this year and so excited! SO glad I read this post because it reminded me of things I need to keep top of mind! That’s awesome that people recognized you 🙂 Live it up!
Apr 19, 2012 @ 12:48:31
Thanks, Ingrid 🙂 I’m glad I could help since conferences can be awesome but also overwhelming 🙂
Apr 18, 2012 @ 21:53:51
The best advice I can give is to not be afraid to talk to people. You’re there to learn or pitch or whatever, but also make sure you meet new people. You never know who might know just the right person for your book. At the very least you’ll make new friends.
Also, go to the bar. Seriously. Where do those agents go when they are dog tired? The bar. What’s the best way to talk to someone when you’re terrified? In a non-threatening social situation like a bar. Win-win!
Just like Marcy said, if you get negative feedback for your piece, don’t think it means you’re a failure. Look at it like a gift. That agent or editor just saved you from sending it out before it’s ready. Take their advice and thank them. No matter how harsh it might seem, they really are trying to help.
Apr 19, 2012 @ 12:47:46
Talking to people is essential! Thanks for making that point.
I met my co-writer at a conference, and I also met the magazine editors who gave me my start. Never underestimate the value of meeting people. You don’t know who might turn into your biggest cheerleader or who you might be able to help.
Apr 19, 2012 @ 01:25:04
I love conferences, but i think I’m going to swear off for awhile. I’ve found that I need in depth information rather than the one hour overview of a topic. I was suprised by the familiarity and kindness of the faculty.
always professional but nice,
Apr 19, 2012 @ 12:45:28
I think you made a really good point. Often at conferences what you get is a broad view of topics, which helps you identify your weaknesses but doesn’t always give you enough tools to fix them. It gives you a good place to start searching from for the in-depth information when you get home.
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Apr 19, 2012 @ 12:21:58
The best advice I’ve found on conferences?
Right here. In your words, Marcy. Mega thanks for reminding how it felt for me back in my corporate training days.
I was exhausted by the end of the day. I’d been “up” and “on point” for long, long days It felt so good to finish the conference and get home.
Then, I got married. And, poor hubby (who’d been alone for days) would need company, cheer, dinners out. Just want I needed. NOT!
Apr 19, 2012 @ 12:43:49
I had to chuckle because I found the same thing with my husband. When I come home from a conference, all I want is to hibernate for a few days, but he’s been lonely and wants attention and to make plans to go out 🙂 At least it reminded me of how much I’m loved and needed.
Apr 19, 2012 @ 16:35:54
Speaking as faculty to other faculty – stay an extra night at the conference hotel if you can. My husband and son are so happy to see me when I get home, and I find I can be equally happy (rather than exhausted) if I have that last night in the hotel room by myself to unwind.
Speaking as faculty to attendees – DON’T be scared of approaching faculty and presenters to talk – even just literally to talk – between sessions. If we’re walking, walk with us. If we’re sitting, walk up and say hi. A lot of people seem intimidated by the “presenter” badge, but the reality is if I’m sitting by myself at a table for 8, I’d honestly rather you’d sit down and talk to me. As Marcy pointed out, if I’m too tired to socialize I won’t be on the conference floor, I’ll be in my room. Faculty are people too and we wouldn’t be there if we didn’t love talking with other writers – and not just other published ones!
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Apr 25, 2012 @ 00:01:26
Excellent tip for other presenters to take that extra day. We definitely need a chance to wind down. I’ll keep that in mind for my next conference 🙂
Apr 19, 2012 @ 18:44:02
Fantastic advice for me to read just before I attend DFW Writer’s Conference, which is my big one for this year. 🙂
Apr 19, 2012 @ 19:43:42
I wish I could go to DFW and hang out with everyone, but I’ve already done my conference limit for the year. Maybe in future 🙂
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Apr 21, 2012 @ 12:57:50
Great tips, Marcy! I haven’t been to a conference yet, and it won’t happen this year, but I would imagine some of these tips can be used in many similar situations. I’ve been collecting all the conference advice I’ve found the last few months, so I’ll be ready when do go to one!
Apr 25, 2012 @ 00:02:20
You’ll love conferences when you get a chance to go, and if you’re already collecting advice now, you’ll be well ahead of a lot of people who go in unprepared. (I know – I went completely unprepared to my first conference!)